I cannot adequately express my thanks for the perspective on life and on myself that Wendy Dolber has helped me awaken to during the past few months. …[ Robert H ] >
Deborah met her late husband Bruce Di Marsico when she was just beginning her studies as fine arts major at Morris County Community College in Dover, New Jersey. Falling in love with Bruce, she left her artistic pursuits to begin a new personal life with him and to immerse herself in the study of The Option Method as one of his original students. Deborah has been involved in Option Method for almost forty years, working with her husband during his lifetime, then continuing his legacy over the past 16 years. Deborah’s unique grasp and understanding of The Option Method affords us all a special opportunity to benefit from her intimate experience with Bruce and his teachings.
Since Bruce’s death, Deborah has worked to further Option Method teachings and disseminate Bruce’s writings and lectures. As a result of her efforts, students and teachers of The Option Method can read and hear Bruce’s words first-hand at www.ChooseHappiness.net, an archival site for Bruce Di Marsico’s writings and lectures. She continues to work on producing books and CDs, most recently a three-volume compilation of Bruce Di Marsico’s teachings, The Option Method: The Myth of Unhappiness. The Collected Works of Bruce Di Marsico on The Option Method and Attitude.
Interview with Deborah Mendel
What do you think is the best way to learn The Option Method?
The best way to learn The Option Method is through a dialogue with a teacher. The most profound experience I had was when I had my first Option Method dialogue with Bruce. To be with someone who is 100% non-judgemental, who will hold the flashlight as you walk your own path and help you keep on track is what the dialogue experience is like. A teacher will instruct you as to what questions to ask yourself in the process and guide you back to your true happy self.
What are your hopes for The Center?
I hope The Center for The Option Method will finally achieve what I believe was Bruce's life-long dream: to bring The Option Method and Attitude to as many people as possible; spreading the gift of the knowledge that we no longer need to feel as if we are victims of our emotional bad feelings and unhappiness.
What has The Option Method meant for you in your life?
The Option Method has forever changed how I see the world around me and how I emotionally respond to my own life's journey. I was headed down an unhappy road when I was first introduced to Bruce and Option. The Option Method gave me a foothold and pointed me in an entirely new direction.....towards happiness.
Compassion is the bottom line in The Option Method. That’s the absolute requirement and if you…
Compassion is the bottom line in The Option Method. That’s the absolute requirement and if you ever want to learn to do it for yourself, you’ve got to be at least as nice to you as you would be to others. You’ve got to know when you’re ready to deal with something and when you’re not. And you’ve got to know when you don’t want to question your unhappiness and when you’d be glad to. When you get unhappy enough you’ll be glad to.[ Bruce Di Marsico ]