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+ What are you holding on to when you hold on to anger?

[ Posted on 07.26.2020 ]

Time heals all wounds, or so it is said. Think about a time when you grieved every day over the loss of a loved one. Think about something that made you so angry you couldn’t stop thinking about it. What about that embarrassing moment so long ago that you thought you would never get over? Do you still feel the same way today? Chances are as with so many things, with time, things change, memories fade and we move on. Unless we don’t. You’re fine until the anniversary of the death of a loved one. You’re at peace until someone reminds you about that thing that made you so angry. You find yourself sharing in the embarrassment of others a little too empathically. If time truly heals all wounds, why are we still suffering? With time, new experiences and the relevancy of the event to daily life, we do move…

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+ What’s the best way to coach through change?

[ Posted on 07.25.2019 ]

To be alive is to be constantly changing. Change is life. Change is the way we get to experience ourselves as the perfect beings that we are – happiness in action. Change is obvious when we compare our current selves to our infant selves. What a miraculous metamorphosis! But aren’t we changing every moment of every day? Even in apparent perfect stillness, we are changing. Every heartbeat, every breath of air, every blink of the eye signifies change. If we don’t change, we stagnate and cease to exist ultimately. Think about all the changes you made since you woke up this morning, starting with the act of waking up, getting out of bed, taking a shower, eating breakfast, going to the bathroom, going to work, having lunch, taking a break and on and on. You could have stayed in bed all day but even then you would be constantly changing – shifting position, going in and out of sleep, thinking different…

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+ How can we live in the present?

[ Posted on 12.17.2018 ]

One of the greatest yoga teachers of our time, B.K.S. Iyengar*, tells us: “Poets and wise men since the beginning of the written word have enjoined us in all culture to live in the present moment because it is all we really have.  Have you ever wondered, while watching nature films on television in which herds of beautiful gazelles are constantly surrounded by marauding predators, why their life is not a living hell of fear and insecurity? How can they live their family lives of courtship, procreation, joy in their own physical perfection, knowing that the inevitable end will be in the lion’s maw? You cannot say it is dull fatalism, or lack of imagination. If they lacked imagination why would they run away so fast? The answer must be that they have the capacity to live in the present moment as it is and not as it might be.…

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+ How to expand your consciousness without even trying.

[ Posted on 09.23.2018 ]

When I think about expanding consciousness, which has been our focus for this month, I realize it’s a wide open multi-leveled subject that can mean many different things. My focus, as always, has been on happiness. What’s the point of expanding consciousness if it doesn’t result in more happiness and less emotional suffering?  In my experience, as we deal with our unhappiness in all its forms and let go of the clockwork mechanism of unhappy thinking, our minds are free to roam the universe. Happiness is an experience of the expansion and evolution of consciousness and that is completely within the realm of what we humans are capable of. We don’t need special credentials or any permission. Within each of us are the makings of that mystic, that sage, that empath, that realized being, that guru, that enlightened being residing right alongside the makings of that person who gets pissed…

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+ Get your daily minimum requirement of nothingness

[ Posted on 05.18.2018 ]

  One of the most gorgeous poems I have ever heard is by Franz Kafka. It goes like this:  You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen, simply wait. Do not even wait, be quite still and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice It will roll in ecstasy at your feet. Wow. When was the last time you took a dip in your own private oasis? You know, that quiet place where you can go to recharge your batteries, get away from it all, hear yourself think, renew your energy. Now, I’m not talking about your hot tub, or the neighborhood watering hole, or a glass of wine on the train ride home – albeit all wonderful and worthy things. And I’m not talking about taking a spin around…

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Unhappiness is believing that something is necessary, something has to be, should be, ought to be, o…

Unhappiness is believing that something is necessary, something has to be, should be, ought to be, or must be other than what it is.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]