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I cannot adequately express my thanks for the perspective on life and on myself that Wendy Dolber has helped me awaken to during the past few months. …

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+ How can I change?

[ Posted on 10.26.2015 ]

Try Being There’s nothing to do to change to be who you already are. It’s an illusion that there’s work to be done as if one of these days you’ll get it right. Who is the you who is getting it wrong? Who is the you who gets it right? Who is you that observes it all and decides What next? It’s just something to do until Eternity arrives. What if it’s already here and we’re missing it? Namaste,  Wendy Dolber photo by Photobonanza

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+ Who is choosing what I do?

[ Posted on 08.25.2015 ]

If you ever feel that you are not doing what you want to do, ask yourself, “Who is choosing what I do?” If you ever have the feeling that you are doing what you don’t want to do, ask yourself, “Who is choosing what I do?” Even if you are doing what you do because others expect, want or even demand that you do it, aren’t you ultimately the chooser?  Even if you are doing what you do because it is the least objectionable choice, aren’t you ultimately the chooser?   If not you, then who? Once we say we are not the chooser, we can become disconnected from our own desires.  We can end up feeling that we ought to, should, and must do things.  How much fun is that? It makes a big difference to our happiness to know that we have the freedom to do what we want.…

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+ Can We Have Our Treats and Eat Them Too?

[ Posted on 07.01.2015 ]

What is there about impending summer that inspires me to eat ice cream? Delicious, cold, creamy, delectable ice cream! And why does this always happen just about the time I am taking stock of my summer body? Under the cover of winter wools, fleeces and flannels, I can delude myself into thinking that I can still strut my stuff at the beach of my choice. But when the calendar flips around to May and June, I turn on my critical eye and take a really good look. Oh, was that there last year? Now, the truth is I love ice cream no matter what the season. But the memories of past summers  riding my bike after the ice cream trucks of my youth – slurping down that delightful double scooped cone on a hot, hot beach – makes summer ice cream all the more “irresistible”. Thing is, I’m not the…

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People become unhappy by choice, belief, or judgment. They make a choice of what they’re going…

People become unhappy by choice, belief, or judgment. They make a choice of what they’re going to believe. If they choose to believe it is good, they will feel good. If they choose to believe it is bad, they feel bad. Why am I using the word “choice”? It’s the only thing in life that you can absolutely be sure is not happening to you.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]