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I have just come upon the Option Method and love the simplicity of [the] questions. They are true to human nature.

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+ What creates change

[ Posted on 03.07.2020 ]

“No great improvements in the lot of mankind are possible, until a great change takes place in the fundamental constitution of their modes of thought.” John Stuart Mill

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+ Door #1 or Door#2. How can you love decision-making?

[ Posted on 02.23.2020 ]

One of the stumbling blocks to making a decision for many people is knowing the right thing to do. If I pick Door #1, will it turn out okay for me? Will it be better than Door #2? They struggle with trying to figure out what the best thing to do is. When it comes to making decisions, we can all profit by doing the research necessary to figure these things out. Whether it’s a trusted friend, colleague, doctor or the all-important and ever-expanding Mr. Google, information gathering can help us tremendously. But do you ever find yourself cycling through more and more questions and research, delaying that moment when you make the final choice? Cringing at the what if’s? and imagined regrets? When you are fearful of the outcome, it isn’t the best time to make a decision. So instead of pushing yourself into something that you can’t feel…

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+ Is it time to speak your truth?

[ Posted on 10.15.2018 ]

A friend of mine shared this wonderful poem from the Hopi culture with me today. It’s about community and how to be in the world, but it’s also about how to be in your own private world. With happiness and strength. Read it through as is and then read it again and change people to myself, your to my, They to I and so on. How does reading this piece change you? What does it inspire you to do? You have been telling the people, That this is the eleventh hour.Now, you must go and tell the people,That THIS is the hour,And there are things to be considered. Where are you living? What are you doing?What are your relationships?Are you in the right relationship?Where is your water?Know your garden … It is time to speak your truth.Create your community,Be good to each other.Do not look outside yourself for a leader.…

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+ How can we trust our desires?

[ Posted on 03.04.2016 ]

  Getting what we want in this world is more about allowing than acquiring. Struggling to acquire, achieve, and accumulate is often an exercise in attachment.  What does attachment create in you? Are you more withholding than generous? More jealous than glad? Allowing our desires to unfold and be met by the unfolding desires of the universe in an exercise in openness. What does openness create in you? Are you then more generous than withholding? More glad than jealous? How can we trust that allowing desires rather than struggling to acquire will be in our best interests?  By letting ourselves happen. Here is a quote from Bruce Di Marsico on the subject: “Just watch yourself happen.  What you want will happen or not.  You will make choices, or you won’t. Enjoy yourself happening. Be where your choices lead you. You will be anyway – but actually be there, where your…

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[ Posted on 01.28.2015 ]

Bruce Di Marsico wrote thousands of pages about happiness and unhappiness and about The Option Method. So many of these writings seem to capture the essence of his teachings in yet another unique way. Here is one that I find particularly wonderful. These are the words that stopped me in my tracks when I first met Bruce in 1971 and reverberate through my psyche every day to this day. This is the core of The Option Method. It is at the center of what we teach here at Dialogues in Self Discovery, an endeavor devoted to Di Marsico’s original teachings. Come and learn The Option Method with us and spread this beautiful message of love, hope and freedom. “The Absolute Truth is simple: There is no such thing as unhappiness. People have believed there was. You have been one of those people. There is nothing, absolutely nothing, to cause unhappiness.…

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Unhappiness is the belief that unhappiness can and will happen in the future.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]