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+ How can we live in the present?

[ Posted on 12.17.2018 ]

One of the greatest yoga teachers of our time, B.K.S. Iyengar*, tells us: “Poets and wise men since the beginning of the written word have enjoined us in all culture to live in the present moment because it is all we really have.  Have you ever wondered, while watching nature films on television in which herds of beautiful gazelles are constantly surrounded by marauding predators, why their life is not a living hell of fear and insecurity? How can they live their family lives of courtship, procreation, joy in their own physical perfection, knowing that the inevitable end will be in the lion’s maw? You cannot say it is dull fatalism, or lack of imagination. If they lacked imagination why would they run away so fast? The answer must be that they have the capacity to live in the present moment as it is and not as it might be.…

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+ The best way to be happy now

[ Posted on 11.21.2018 ]

The Option Method is a fantastic way to change direction when you aren’t feeling the way you want to feel. As quick and effective as it can be, there is even a quicker way to turn yourself around. The first is be happy. Remind yourself that regardless of what you are feeling, your ultimate goal is really to be happy, so why not go there? Ask yourself what you are doing to stand in the way of your happiness? Would it be okay, just for now, to step aside and let it happen? Whatever you think it might cost you, ask yourself if that is really true and see what happens. Second, look at how you are feeling about what you are feeling. Yes, I said, how you are feeling about what you are feeling. Most feelings will pass quickly if we don’t hold onto them. Ever stub your toe?…

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+ Holidays bringing up painful memories? Here’s what to do.

[ Posted on 12.06.2016 ]

I love the holidays, especially Christmastime.  Whether I am alone or with family, I love the hustle and bustle of the season. The singing. The gift giving. The love. I’m not so crazy about the unrelenting merchandising that pops out earlier and earlier each year but I’ve gotten very good at tuning it out. I know that isn’t true for many others. I often hear people say, “I hate Christmas.” Or “This is the worst time of the year for me.” The reason is often because they are remembering some event that happened during the holidays. That was the time my husband died. Or a fire destroyed our home. Or I lost a child. If you have someone like this in your life, what can you do to help them through this time of year (or any time of year)? What can you do to help yourself? One. Deal with…

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+ Is Happiness Your Road Not Taken?

[ Posted on 09.14.2015 ]

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. I learned Robert Frost’s The Road Not Taken when I was a kid in grammar school and it has stayed with me all these years.   I especially love these last three lines, which for me, sum up what it means to follow your own heart, even if it leads you down an unfamiliar path.  I love to think about this within the context of happiness and unhappiness.  If you were presented with two paths in any given situation, one to happiness – the other to unhappiness – however you imagine it, which path do you think you would take? Most of us would probably say, I would always choose the path to happiness.  After all, who wouldn’t want to be happy?  Why would we ever choose otherwise?  Who…

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+ Who is choosing what I do?

[ Posted on 08.25.2015 ]

If you ever feel that you are not doing what you want to do, ask yourself, “Who is choosing what I do?” If you ever have the feeling that you are doing what you don’t want to do, ask yourself, “Who is choosing what I do?” Even if you are doing what you do because others expect, want or even demand that you do it, aren’t you ultimately the chooser?  Even if you are doing what you do because it is the least objectionable choice, aren’t you ultimately the chooser?   If not you, then who? Once we say we are not the chooser, we can become disconnected from our own desires.  We can end up feeling that we ought to, should, and must do things.  How much fun is that? It makes a big difference to our happiness to know that we have the freedom to do what we want.…

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True Happiness is not the happiness that is sought but the Happiness that already exists.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]