BOOK EXCERPT: MAKING SPACE FOR HAPPINESS
By Wendy Dolber
YOU ARE A CHANGE BEING
“There is nothing permanent except change.” – Heraclitus
Life is an ocean of change. It carries us forward in gently rolling and sometimes great crashing waves from birth to who we will become to the end of our days. It’s momentum of cultural expectations and our own personal plan carries us from stage to stage. Until one day, when the ocean says, “It’s time to create your own momentum,” we wash up on shore. This can happen at any time of life, at any moment in any day. We may be spent from life’s activities. Our identity may be shivering in the sand. We may feel stranded and alone. But we are truly on the cusp of a new life. We are being invited to reinvent any part of ourselves that calls out for change. Whether we accept the invitation is completely up to us. We are perfectly within our rights to dig in and cling to old ways of being. Or we can stand up, shake off the sand and take a step. The more we love change, the easier that step will be.
BOOK EXCERPT: THE GURU NEXT DOOR, A TEACHER’S LEGACY
By Wendy Dolber
WHAT IF THE ANSWER TO YOUR PROBLEMS IS ALREADY WITHIN YOU?
The “library group,” as Bruce called it, met in a small-town library on Long Island. He would make the drive every Wednesday afternoon, cruising over a network of highways, tunnels, and bridges in his large comfortable car, drinking Pepsi and smoking cigarettes while he prepared his lecture in his head based on notes he had made the night before.
He liked to keep it simple, building each week on the message of the week before, and he liked to answer the unspoken questions that settled like a cloud around the group. These were the questions that most would be thinking but no one would raise – questions they judged too stupid to ask, or too challenging. He loved these questions the most. These were the questions that usually got to the core of why people clung to the old unhappy routines year in and year out, questions like “If I’m not unhappy about things, why would I ever try to change anything?” or “If I am happy with everyone, won’t people walk all over me?”