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+ What’s the best way to coach through change?

[ Posted on 07.25.2019 ]

To be alive is to be constantly changing. Change is life. Change is the way we get to experience ourselves as the perfect beings that we are – happiness in action. Change is obvious when we compare our current selves to our infant selves. What a miraculous metamorphosis! But aren’t we changing every moment of every day? Even in apparent perfect stillness, we are changing. Every heartbeat, every breath of air, every blink of the eye signifies change. If we don’t change, we stagnate and cease to exist ultimately. Think about all the changes you made since you woke up this morning, starting with the act of waking up, getting out of bed, taking a shower, eating breakfast, going to the bathroom, going to work, having lunch, taking a break and on and on. You could have stayed in bed all day but even then you would be constantly changing – shifting position, going in and out of sleep, thinking different…

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+ How can we live in the present?

[ Posted on 12.17.2018 ]

One of the greatest yoga teachers of our time, B.K.S. Iyengar*, tells us: “Poets and wise men since the beginning of the written word have enjoined us in all culture to live in the present moment because it is all we really have.  Have you ever wondered, while watching nature films on television in which herds of beautiful gazelles are constantly surrounded by marauding predators, why their life is not a living hell of fear and insecurity? How can they live their family lives of courtship, procreation, joy in their own physical perfection, knowing that the inevitable end will be in the lion’s maw? You cannot say it is dull fatalism, or lack of imagination. If they lacked imagination why would they run away so fast? The answer must be that they have the capacity to live in the present moment as it is and not as it might be.…

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+ The best way to be happy now

[ Posted on 11.21.2018 ]

The Option Method is a fantastic way to change direction when you aren’t feeling the way you want to feel. As quick and effective as it can be, there is even a quicker way to turn yourself around. The first is be happy. Remind yourself that regardless of what you are feeling, your ultimate goal is really to be happy, so why not go there? Ask yourself what you are doing to stand in the way of your happiness? Would it be okay, just for now, to step aside and let it happen? Whatever you think it might cost you, ask yourself if that is really true and see what happens. Second, look at how you are feeling about what you are feeling. Yes, I said, how you are feeling about what you are feeling. Most feelings will pass quickly if we don’t hold onto them. Ever stub your toe?…

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+ Is it time to speak your truth?

[ Posted on 10.15.2018 ]

A friend of mine shared this wonderful poem from the Hopi culture with me today. It’s about community and how to be in the world, but it’s also about how to be in your own private world. With happiness and strength. Read it through as is and then read it again and change people to myself, your to my, They to I and so on. How does reading this piece change you? What does it inspire you to do? You have been telling the people, That this is the eleventh hour.Now, you must go and tell the people,That THIS is the hour,And there are things to be considered. Where are you living? What are you doing?What are your relationships?Are you in the right relationship?Where is your water?Know your garden … It is time to speak your truth.Create your community,Be good to each other.Do not look outside yourself for a leader.…

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+ How to expand your consciousness without even trying.

[ Posted on 09.23.2018 ]

When I think about expanding consciousness, which has been our focus for this month, I realize it’s a wide open multi-leveled subject that can mean many different things. My focus, as always, has been on happiness. What’s the point of expanding consciousness if it doesn’t result in more happiness and less emotional suffering?  In my experience, as we deal with our unhappiness in all its forms and let go of the clockwork mechanism of unhappy thinking, our minds are free to roam the universe. Happiness is an experience of the expansion and evolution of consciousness and that is completely within the realm of what we humans are capable of. We don’t need special credentials or any permission. Within each of us are the makings of that mystic, that sage, that empath, that realized being, that guru, that enlightened being residing right alongside the makings of that person who gets pissed…

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People become unhappy by choice, belief, or judgment. They make a choice of what they’re going…

People become unhappy by choice, belief, or judgment. They make a choice of what they’re going to believe. If they choose to believe it is good, they will feel good. If they choose to believe it is bad, they feel bad. Why am I using the word “choice”? It’s the only thing in life that you can absolutely be sure is not happening to you.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]